social emotional Learning
Why play this way?
It's only natural for grownups to hate to see their children in any kind of discomfort. However, we believe that some discomfort can actually be a wonderful thing. In order to help children acquire a resilient mindset, it is important to trust that they will grow by grappling with challenges. There are many ways that you can step back at the first signs of struggle to support this growth mindset. Let children take risks, give them space for independence, and, yes, even let them fail. With time, you will learn to distinguish between "step back struggles," and "support struggles."
Honor process
A self-dressed child with clothing on backwards is a victory not a mistake. Better to let your little one traipse around all day in backwards clothes wearing the glow of accomplishment, than to redo their effort in an attempt to correct them.
In other words, it is the doing that builds confidence, not a perfect outcome.
Learn From Failure
When your little one struggles or even fails, do not view them as a victim to be consoled. Instead, approach them with a happy attitude knowing they have had the opportunity to learn from failure. Present the moment as a chance to try something new or even to learn how not to do something. Your tone, language and gestures can powerfully model a growth mindset.
Try applying this attitude toward yourself and see how it changes your perspective. :-)
Respect the Effort
If you find it too hard not to intervene (for example, when your little one is trying to put on a shoe), remove yourself from the situation by saying, “You are really working hard. I have to grab something from the other room.”
Do not include sentiments of, “you did it” or even “great job” once they have completed the task. If you do, the task will have become an effort to please an adult and not a self gratifying triumph.
